“Be Kind; Everyone You Meet is Fighting a Hard Battle”
I’ve seen this quote in multiple versions, with several different attributions. It often seems to get attributed to Plato, but it sounds a little too touchy-feely to have come from him. I did a bit of investigating and it seems that the quote has gone through quite a few variations, but likely originated with a nineteenth-century Scottish theologian named John Watson (psuedonym “Ian McClaren”).
Regardless of the origin of the quotation, is one of those sayings that helps me keep my patience when I find myself becoming frustrated with other people. If I have my battle with chronic illness—which so often remains invisible to others, sometimes intentionally on my part—then how many other people have their own invisible battles with trauma, abuse, mental illness, physical illness, etc? Every time I start to feel like someone is attacking me, or snubbing me, or ignoring me, I ask myself, “What’s going on in her life that might be affecting our relationship?” It’s so easy to jump to the conclusion that someone is attacking us out of spite, because they want to hurt us. In reality, it’s likely that they are so caught up in their own battles that they don’t realize how their actions affect those around them. It takes practice, but it is so much easier to react with kindness instead of bitterness. Suddenly some of the paranoia that comes from living in a hostile world just falls away. Most people are too caught up in their own heads to make the effort to hurt anyone. Give them the benefit of the doubt.